Ladies, or gents, I have to say, the military life is tough. If you’re not in it for the long haul, you are wasting the service members’ time. Don’t be the asshole that does that. There’s nothing more awful than receiving a Dear John letter (you know, the letters where the service member finds out you want to terminate the relationship) when you’re out there busting your ass to work hard pass this phase. You’re either in it or you’re not, very important to be mindful of that.
If there was one thing that I enjoyed during the bootcamp phase, it was definitely receiving letters from my Marine. At the time, the only communication that recruits had were letters and I am so glad that the military did that. It takes me back to a simpler time of how you had to concise all your words as much as you can.
During bootcamp, I did not receive a letter from him till maybe about 3 to 4 weeks in.When it did, it was an overwhelming sense of relief knowing he was doing okay. It opened up another side of us where we got to be incredibly vulnerable, really tested the distance, but also reinforce our feelings of where we were in our relationship. For me, the distance made my heart grow fonder. Every time a letter came in, it made my heart skip a beat. I could not be happier; to this day, I have kept his letters and he has mine.
If you guys don’t receive a letter, there’s a phrase that people often say; No News is Good News! Depending on each group, sometimes Drill Instructors(DI) keep them busy. Some groups were allowed to write more than others, not sure why that is but depending on which DI they had, that could be the reason why you don’t receive a letter as often or at all. It is better to hear no news, than to find out that there’s bad news coming your way. So don’t stress! Just remind yourself that they might just be busy and that they’re working hard to be a Marine.
As far as mailing address goes, i used an amazing app called Sandboxx! That allowed me to find my Marine and was a great tool to reach him when writing! Also when the recruits write back, they can tell you how to mail them as well. So don’t be too discourage if you don’t get a letter, continue your best to write cause more often than not they will receive your letter.
My advice: Always write. It’s something these service men and women look forward to. They love mail day! Any small words of hope can fuel so much to their heart; it is what keeps them going. So tell them about your day and how much you love them. Try to stay positive, I find that sometimes negative news wasn’t always the best thing a recruit wants to hear during his vigorous training. Be kind, be loving, and most importantly never forget to remind them that you are always there to support them every step of the way. Before you know it, those 3 months will go by and you will see them again.